Tuesday, December 30, 2008
It was a fun day. Unfortunately I had to work from 9:00 - 5:30pm. Oh well, that's what happens when you're the bottom man on the totem pole. Oh well.
We only bought the children one present each, of course they ended up with more because of gifts that others gave them.
I've gotten to the point where I don't want to do Christmas anymore. I think that the family should travel instead. Save the money that would have gone towards Christmas, and create family memories instead. All I have is JUNK that the girls are already bored with.
I'm completely serious. I will phase out Christmas within 5 years. What we'll do instead is having Christmas stockings and then a family breakfast.
Here's to 2009! (Which I also work, *sigh*)
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
We had family come over to our house. We had dinner and Hor’dourves ... nothing too fancy, but very tasty.
The boys both received their own cupcakes and went to town! After getting cleaned up the bathtub had a brown ring of frosting left. SICK!
All in all it was a wonderful party!
Friday, December 5, 2008
Devon was born on Thursday, Aug. 25th 2005. This was a few days before Hurricane Katrina, so I thought to myself maybe I should name her Katrina instead. : )
Devon was perfect at 7lb 8oz and was such a good baby. She was my best nurser, too. She had two older sisters, Lily 9, and Lydia 4.
On Friday, Dec 8th 2006, it was like any other day. Normally I leave for work very early, and my husband gets the girls off to the babysitter and school. This day however, I traded shifts for someone who needed to work an early shift, and I worked his late shift. I am so thankful for this... if I would have gone to work at my normal time, I wouldn't have seen Devon that morning. I would kissed my husband good-bye then left for work with out waking up the girls.
I was able to wake her up, give her a bath, and give her breakfast. After she was all ready, I made sure she looked cute for the day, and gave her a big kiss and said, "Momma loves you." and told my husband I was leaving and the girls were watching cartoons. That was the last time I saw Devon alive.
I received a call at work around 5:30pm that there was an emergency and I needed to call my husband. I called him immediately and he told me over the phone that Devon had died and I needed to get to the hospital. I didn't know how Devon had died, other than she stopped breathing. I completely collapsed to the floor.
A co-worker drove me to my sister's work which was on the way to the hospital. My brother-in-law happened to be at my sister's work as well because they were going to dinner as it was Friday evening. My BIL drove and my sister and I tried to call everyone to meet us at the hospital. My mother used to be an RN at the same hospital and now volunteered at the gift shop and she was working that night. She was able to go to the ER and be with my husband.
When we got there I was so shocked. Devon looked so different, but she looked SO beautiful. She looked yellow, and her lips were redish/purple. I took her from my husband and just cried. I held her so close. I tried to take mental pictures of everything I could. Someone went to the gift shop and bought a disposable camera. We took many precious photos. The experience at the hospital was by the far the sweetest experience for us. There was also a hospital volunteer woman who works with families who've lost children/babies. She had a nice camera and took some high-quality photos for us and also took molds of her hands and feet.
While holding Devon, I noticed she had a mark all around her neck and up to her ears. I didn't know what this was at the time.
All my family that could have come, was able to come to the hospital. Everyone who wanted to, was able to hold Devon and tell her how much they loved her. My 9-year old and 4 year old were able to come to the hospital and also say goodbye. My 9 year old was very emotional but I don't think my 4 year old knew what was going on at the time. We were with Devon for about 2 1/2 hours in the ER. I took a wisp of hair. The volunteer woman gave us a nice box to put our memories in. Devon was still wearing her sock and little, pink, "Robeez" shoe. I took it off and put it in the box.
My husband and I said our goodbyes and kissed and hugged her. We put her on the gurney and "tucked" her in with the blankies and left the room.
Afterwards, we had to meet with the sheriff for questioning. We still didn't know what happened. He told us that Devon had been sleeping in her infant car seat (Graco Snugride) and somehow had become strangled in the straps. The babysitter's daughter found her and immediately got her mother. Our babysitter couldn't remember how she undid the straps as she was pulling her out start CPR. But we now know that she put Devon in her seat with out fastening the crotch buckle, only the buckle that goes across the chest. Devon struggled to get out and while doing so, tilted the seat and strangled herself.
The irony is, we hadn't used this seat in months. She was now in a forward facing seat, but my babysitter had the old infant seat (that I gave her) and was using it like a bed or something.
I have forgiven my babysitter. There are many imaginary conversations I have in my head with her. Sometimes I want to ruin her life by suing her (and yes I've spoken to several attorneys) but it wouldn't be ethical. Afterall, it's still an accident.
The only thing I truly struggle with, is the unfairness of it all and how pointless her death is. I don't spend time wondering, "what if?"as it makes me more sad. In fact, I try not to think about it. I avoid it, otherwise I'll fall apart.
We are not religious and to some people that is uncomfortable. However, we are comforted in each other and the love we have for our family and friends.
Even though today is not the actual "date" Devon died, it still *feels* like today. Like Friday, two years ago.
I can remember the events perfectly. It's transparent.
Sometimes I think that one of the boys is Devon ... like she couldn't find a way to come back, so she somehow 'duplicated' the baby we were having, so she could come back to me. I don't care if she's a boy or a girl, I just want her back with me.
We had Devon's body cremated. It was the right decision for our family. She's here, with us.
It's not always hard, but today, it's hard.
Come back to me.
Too see a painting of Devon and my mother, visit http://www.altusfineart.com/home/afa/page_1377_194/looking_forward.html ... Devon was 3 weeks old when she posed for this painting. The original is in my mother's home.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
We picked up our Christmas Tree from Frederico's Christmas tree lot. They are very generous and have given us a free tree almost every year.
We decided to make it a family tradition that we would get our tree on the first Monday of December. Since yesterday was the first, it means we'll have the tree up for a long time. I guess it's not that big of a deal, I think everyone on the street has their tree up as well.
Lydia was a butt, but what can you expect? She wouldn't smile for any photos, or hold still. The babies really liked being out in the cold and looking and touching the trees. Lily just liked walking/running through the trees. I totally remember being the same way ... Lily and I are a lot alike.
We decorated the tree when we got home. The tree looks totally wonky. I'm afraid all our ornaments are old hand-me-downs. I don't think we'll have a 'nice' Christmas tree until the boys are 5 and won't try and pull things off and break them.
Overall, it was a fun night.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
That is so freakin' unbelievable! I was -----> <------ (this close) to booking a trip. AHHHHH!!!! Only two problems though, one - it would be financially irresponsible, two - I don't have enough vacation time accrued from eBay yet. Oh well ... another great deal will come along I guess.
I'm not exactly why I crave Disney so much. It's weird. I'd like to get to the point where I take two BIG vacations a year. One to Disney, and one somewhere else. It's not fun to travel with the kids quite yet, so I'll wait a few more years, then we'll start to do some major stuff.
On another note, I think I'll put my Christmas lights up today since it's mild outside. We'll see how lazy I am.
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
It's always busy around here.
Halloween was AWESOME! Everyone in the family dressed up. Lily was a vampress, Lydia decided to be Minnie Mouse at the last second, even though she had a new pirate costume. Arik was Squirt and Duncan was Nemo. Ian and I were both pirates. Ian looks so cute with 'Jack Sparrow' dreadlocks. *sigh*
We also carved pumpkins earlier that week. I thought it would be fun to make 'pumpkin surprise' and put the boys inside. It was fun for a few minutes, then they had had enough! Oh well ... it was fun while it lasted.
My dad celebrated his 70th birthday on November 2nd. We had a party for him on the 1st at Sizzler's. I was pleasantly surprised at the food. Not bad at all. My dad thinks he's going to die any day now. He's so weird.
Nate and Mary stayed with us. It's always nice when they come. The girls love it! It's all they talk about because they love their cousins, Kyla and Shannon. I'm sure once our boys are older, they and Asher will be best buds... not to mention Micah.
I'm still training for my new job at eBay. It's awesome ... hopefully I'll be able to move up fast and get back to my pay where I was at UPS. So far, the gamble is paying off.
That's all for now ...
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
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